You’re at a restaurant, enjoying lunch with a good friend. Your friend gets up to use the restroom. You’re alone at your table and you’re done eating, no big deal. So you do what’s natural for anyone to do. You take a look at your surroundings, not looking for or at anything in particular.
You spot a lady sitting across the way and something catches your eye. It’s not what she’s wearing or how she looks, it’s what she’s doing…she’s looking at you. Again, no big deal. You think nothing of it and look away. But you happen to look back again, SHE’S STILL LOOKING AT YOU! In fact, this innocent “looking” has become a full fledged STARE!
Let’s admit, you know they are staring, you’ve deliberately looked away and then looked back to catch them. You immediately think “What the “H-E-double hockey sticks” are they looking at?!” (really…
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I bet you are wondering, “Does this lady even know how to spell?” “What in the world does ‘Diff-abled’ mean?” “Diff-abled isn’t even a word, genius!” Okay, you are right about that. However, “Diff-abled”, implies that we ARE “abled”, just abled differently. “Diff-abled” isn’t a word recognized yet, BUT it should be! Here’s why.
When you hear the word “Disabled”, what comes to mind? “A person who isn’t able to perform the tasks that are necessary for self care or the care of others because of a physical or mental condition?” “A person whose abilities are “diminished” or “impaired” due to an accident or birth “defect”? Or dare I take from the obviously “ignorant”, rude or less tactful “minds” of society and say “Someone who isn’t ‘normal’ because of a handicap?”…”normal” being a word I hate. Isn’t a positive or pretty picture, is it?
The term “Disabled” has a negative…
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*Update* Since I wrote this article if you apply for any disabled access tickets for theatres, concerts, or any major sporting event a lot of venues ask for proof of genuine disability by submitting your ID and any official paperwork stating your disability most venues didn’t wan’t to bring in this policy regarding tickets it can be a bit of a faff to do at times but it’s the only way to check if people are “playing the system” and making sure genuine disabled people get the tickets they want//need for their event….
In October 2013, I rang Manchester Arena to book my latest Il Divo ticket the special needs team are the best to deal with I buy my ticket (great price) I ask if my usual seats are available ” yes of course what numbers do you usually have?” I gave them the numbers I’m adding up the total cost for my friend who has kindly agreed to be my carer “your carer is free” he said “I’m sorry can you repeat that?” ” your carer goes free ” big mega watt smile! it’s a great initiative to get more disabled people to enjoy events at the arena.
So when I read this article I was annoyed as its unfair on genuinely disabled people………..
*climbs down from soapbox*
As I write the rain is blowing against the window and Jason Manford’s debut album “‘A Different Stage” plays in the background it’s a great listen and I’m really surprised as he didn’t mess up “Stars” from Les Misrables is on repeat already!
So where have I been all summer? I haven’t blogged as much due to me having cataract surgery in both eyes thrilled to say that both operations have been a total success for the first time in my life I’m not wearing glasses at all for anything as you can imagine this is life changing event for me and it’s taken a little time but I’ve adapted extremely fast and really well to my new life and my family are thrilled by the outcome.
Over the last few months it has dawned on me before my operations that I wasn’t seeing very much at all I was used to everything being blurred stopped doing lots of things like reading haven’t read a book properly for 3 years and I didn’t have much confidence you don’t when you can’t see where your going and frightened of falling .
But now all that has changed I have a life to live instead of just an existence and it makes my disability so much easier when I look back to my school days I had thick strong lenses the size of jamjars heavy which press on your face they made me stand out even in a special school as you can imagine those that were able didn’t want to be friends with me …
I’d go for the mandatory 2 year eye test I always feel nervous yet doctor’s, dentists, physio, hospital, don’t bother me at all I can vividly remember one optician saying “your short sighted it happens when your 7 years old” ‘ and the squint which I used a patch for a while didn’t work when I was very young I recently looked up that statement the bit when I was 7 found nothing to support it then I go back again this time it’s “your ok you may need reading glasses” then “you have cataracts in both eyes come back In 12 months”then I’ll refer to a specialist”‘
you have to wait for the cataract to mature before removal got to January this year the new optician took one look at both”They should have come off .a long time ago can’t believe you’ve been left for so long ” makes me wonder about the opticians on previous visits I think they were trying to fob me off on account of disability she has other problems notching can be done really…..
So I got referred for the first operation on May 8th and then September 8th the second one was the hardest operation the surgeon has ever done in his career and doesn’t want to have another one before he retires! He also corrected my short slghtedness asked how I was coping without glasses fine I said I won’t miss spending £200-£400 on glasses that didn’t really work.
I don’t have to have an eye test for a while so now I can just get on with life.
Beautifully written, very sensitively done 🙂